Writing a blog using my very own identity really limits my sharing intensity. I love to write about women issues because it has everything to do with me. But if i wrote about sex abused, people will mistakenly think that me myself were abused which i'm not and same goes with any issue. So, here I would like to stressed out that any posts in here MIGHT & MIGHT NOT relate to me. So please don't make any assumption before asking me directly.
I'd like to share one post written by my sister; Nurul Iffah. She's a medical student in Egypt. What she had wrote is some facts that has been lingering in my mind for long. I always think women as a prey in any way. The only thing that keep me from acting silly is: "There lays a secret in Allah's way."
Here it is:
This semester is all about disease of women, pregnancy, and babies!
When I learn about women.. which means learning about myself, sometimes there's self-pity.
Women faces many2 problems since the day they were born. till puberty.. till childbearing age, till menopause.. even after menopause, disease are coming after us more than they come after the guys- proved by taking gynecology in our MD other than studying andrology. Too many, and too complicated, yet too interesting to deal with; as our doctor said. I guess that's why there's more male gynecologist compared to female, maybe they can't bear it to see one of their kind getting looked at, being the trial of drugs and procedures, living their lives at stake with complications of the disease she's having.
Starting on the first day a girl is born, they may bleed per vagina (which is perfectly normal) because of maternal hormone withdrawal. Going to adolescent age.. our genital system is easily infected--for many reason i'm not gonna write. Going to childbearing age.. facing the risk of ectopic pregnancy (mengandung luar rahim)--which mostly managed by surgery, pregnancy and its effects on every inch of our body (i do mean every single inch). Menopause: again, changes a person has to confront; sometimes all her life afterward. inability to sleep? feeling hot and sweat all the time? bone ache? heart problem? u name it.
I remember when one of my doctor told us about his experience working in the UK. He said women there are so strong and violent and rude that they can't be easily talked to, examined.. or anything. They were protected by Women Rights in every aspects of life-- and that he hates it! he prefers it in Egypt because here women don't have voices.--and this is a man talking, who has a WIFE who made his house a home, prepared his clothes, food, children so he can be happily living life. He even say his mat salleh girlfriend is wayyyyy more prettier than his wife. (what ever happen to true love?) Hurmm i don't know why i'm bringing this up. maybe there's a burning fire hiding inside myself , which tries peeking out.
Being a women gives us easy pass to heaven.. and that's ALHAMDULILLAH.
Sebuah hadis Nabi menyatakan: Daripada Anas, Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam bersabda yang bermaksud: "Apabila seorang perempuan mendirikan sembahyang lima waktu, berpuasa sebulan (Ramadhan), menjaga kehormatan dan taat kepada suami, dia akan disuruh memasuki syurga melalui mana-mana pintu yang dia sukai." (Hadis Riwayat Ahmad)
See..? At least 4 basic act, (which is already compulsory from the start) can lead us to Jannah. This is the unbiased justice we can find in Islam and nowhere else. So women out there.. no matter how hard it was and what is going to be, remember Allah's promise, for Allah never break His promises. Protect our dignity, be courteous, be faithful; as
"Sesungguhnya sopan santun dan keimanan adalah saling berkaitan, jika salah satunya dikeluarkan, yang satu lagi juga akan hilang serentak." (Hadis Riwayat Baihaqi)
and another story to ponder about:
Once, a man asked Abu Bakr r.a. what if the Jannah does not exist. What did you miss through out your worldly enjoyment? Abu Bakr said, “I would still enjoy doing good deeds even if there is no Jannah!”
The man stood silently and then asked permission to leave. But then Abu Bakr stopped him and said, “I also have a question for you. What if the Hellfire does really exist? What have you done to your worldly life (responsibility)?
DrNurolSai: what would we?